Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Mommy friends

I am kind of a private person - and I always have been. One or two close friends have always been enough for me. As you might have guessed, I don't have a very outgoing personality. I never joined any organized sports in high school. And I certainly never joined any sorities in college.

Somehow, I have turned into a social butterfly. Porgie seems to have made me more outgoing and willing to talk to other people. I am always striking up conversations with other moms at the park, or the book store, or the doctor's office. In the past week, I have asked for three other moms phone numbers - and I fully intend to call them to arrange playdates.

This behavior feels strange to me, yet at the same time it is liberating. I have finally realized that I don't have to be lonely. I don't have to be bored. I don't have to feel isolated. Why did it take me so long to figure this out?

8 comments:

Lainey-Paney said...

Good for you, Mom!!!!!

em said...

Glad youve been making more friends, my Mum always reminds me she made loads of new friends through having me and a few have stuck, so it seem worth the effort. I've made a few Mummy friends and strangley they are people i'd normally chose but we get along so its great!

Catizhere said...

I was just talking to Joe about this over the weekend.

I only have 2 real friends.
Everyone else is either:
"People I Know From Work" or
"People I know Inside the Computer"

I should try to get out more & meet people, but after working all day, picking the kids up at daycare, making dinner, doing the dishes, etc. it's time to start getting them ready for bed.
Weekends aren't that much better since I'm either down the shore or trying to catch up on all the housework/grocery shopping that didn't get done during the week.

Amber said...

That is so good for you! I'm glad you're coming out of your shell, I've been in the same shoes as you. With each child I have I have more confidence in myself that I do have something to offer the world. And when I go to work I am constantly striking up conversations with women who bring their kids into daycare. I think it is so easy to have a conversation because there is a ton of common ground there with being a mom. I hope you do call them and set up playdates!

Suz said...

Wow. I keep waiting for this to happen to me. It hasn't yet? I wonder if this has something to do with having twins, being a working mom, or well, just being me.

Eva said...

Mommy friends rock. I'm glad you are forming a posse!

Rachel said...

I hear you. I am very social but tend to just be alone because it is easier..which reminds me..let's go out soon!!

JC said...

that is the same way I was too. Now i have so many friends...its weird. my husband even commented "wow honey you have friends now"...