Wednesday, September 1, 2010

My little man

I don't like to talk about this much, but sometimes I worry about my son. He stutters a lot. He pauses inappropriately during sentences, making conversations difficult to follow. His pronunciation is off, and it is difficult to understand him. I know that everyone is different, so I try to take it all in stride. But I still worry.

The hardest part is not comparing him to Porgie. She has no speech problems, and she talks a mile a minute. But I know that he has other skills that she lacks. Izzy is VERY physical. He can do all kinds of stuff that Porgie struggles with. For example, he can buckle himself into his carseat! He is only two, how does he know how to do that? He can dress himself, and he even knows how to button up his own shirts/pants. Why am I still buttoning Porgie's clothes? He potty trained himself. I would like to take credit, but he honestly just started doing it all by himself. Basically, my little boy is physically active. He is a mover and a shaker! If there is a physical skill to be conquered, he will work on it continuously until he has mastered it.

Although I know that he is ahead of the game in lots of little ways, his speech always worries me. And his complete lack of interest in all things academic worries me too. He is much too busy to sing the ABC song. And besides, those 26 letters are so boring. Numbers? Why bother learning to count to 10, when you can just label EVERYTHING as the number two?

I don't really know where I am going with this post. I just worry about my little buddy sometimes. But then I remind myself that he is only 2, and that my children are not carbon copies of one another. They are different people, with different personalities, different strengths, different weaknesses. He will get there eventually, and I will be there cheering him on every step of the way.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Get your son into speech therapy. Early intervention is key. My son started speech therapy and after a year, his speaking is close to perfect. Our county has a free evaluation and, if you qualify, you receive free or discounted services. I know in NYC, all services at this age are free, so it just depends on where you live. Good luck.

Christina said...

G knows her ABC's well there is only 3 letter's right? after C she is not interested, as for number's she will count for you "G 1,2,3 timeout now!" As I type this she is running around the twins room trying to entertain them and plot how to teach them to climb!

MK said...

*hugs* I agree w/ anonymous. Even if its nothing (which it could be) getting him tested would make you feel better. That way you can know 100% that he's really ok, and if it is an issue it gets caught early.

Btw a random part of your post made me feel better about Kalila. She's not dressing herself yet either and it worries me sometimes lol.

Lainey-Paney said...

I don't have more than one kiddo, so I don't know...but I imagine it's hard to not compare your experience with one child to your experiences with another....
Don't beat yourself up about that.

Lainey-Paney said...

...and I just got caught up on your last posts...
those tap shoes? OMG, adorable.
A trip to the beach!? I'm jealous.

allykat said...

He sounds a bit like my husband when he was a kid. He also potty trained himself at two and was a late bloomer academically in some areas. He excelled in math. As an adult he is very creative and what us educators would call highly intelligent - not always gift, because it makes him difficult in some other ways.

I do believe that all kids talk at their own pace, boys are slower. My friend's son didn't really talk much until almost three and he talks like crazy now. You know him best and only your own intuition (I'm a firm believer in this) will tell you what to do.

amanda said...

so the teacher in me says "don't worry, he is all boy" and comparing your daughter to your son? totally not worth it. it's literally apples to oranges.

but the mom/friend in me says if you really are worried and have "that" feeling in your gut, then it doesn't hurt anyone to have him tested. bc like everyone else has said early intervention is key if there actually is an issue.

do you guys have parents as teachers??

Just Jiff said...

My stepson was the same way. Physically he was conquering everything, speech was a late bloomer. He never had therapy, but he was enrolled in daycare around 3 years old and suddenly his speech exploded. He's now 8 and won't be quiet. He's very intelligent and is not lacking in anything. :)

I've heard boys develop more quickly in the physical aspect, but speech is a little later. Girls are opposite.

Follow your heart and do what you feel will put your mind at ease. :)

Antropologa said...

My kid is not into academics, either. And she can do her car seat. They are all different.

You may recall I had a speech eval done on my little girl. It was really interesting and informative and free. Couldn't hurt, right?

kristi said...

I agree about early intervention. I ignored my instincts and TC was almost 5 before I had him evaluated. So much wasted time;if only I had known.