Saturday, November 10, 2007

Work Work Work

My husband works a lot. On average, he works a 60 hour work week. This completely sucks, and is a huge strain on our relationship. I know that I shouldn't, but when he calls to report that he is going to be late again, I get pissed off. We usually end up arguing, and I usually end up hanging up on his annoying ass. Of course, this does nothing to help the situation.

Because of the type of work John does, he is also on-call on the weekends. If a customer is having a problem, John has to go out and fix it. When John works on the weekends, I get extremely pissed. If he is working 60 hours during the week, I should be able to count on him during the weekend.

John received a call this morning, and is now working instead of spending time with me and Porgie. I am so frustrated and unhappy. Sometimes I think about what my life with two babies under the age of two will be like, and I want to cry. Its basically going to be all me, all the time. I really can't count on John to help with the children, because I never know when he is going to be home.


Margo said...

My sons are two years apart, almost to the day, and my husband works crazy hours as well. The thing that has really kept me from going crazy are my friends! Make them, then cling to them like your life depends on it. Oh, and it helps if they have kids too - that way they can sympathize.

Eva said...

That's no good. It really sucks. I would be frustrated, too! You really need some time off. My husband is usually home around 5:15 which really makes the evenings easier, and of course when I have class or teach he's with her, too. It makes such a difference to have a break. Maybe you can get a mother's helper sometimes? Or he could just stop working so damn much?

It's not about the badge! said...

I am soo sorry that you have to do it all yourself! I know it sucks to have him away so much. I work a bunch to, but K and I both know it is for the good of the family right now. I can't imagine working 60hrs a week and then more on the weekends to. Hang in there!!

Rachel said...

Oh Christy-it makes me want to jump through the monitor and give you a hug. It must be so hard and you are not a bitch-anybody would feel that way. Yeah, we both pretty much work from home and even that can be tough-can't imagine what you are going through. You are a strong momma-I know you will do it.

Mary said...

I completely understand how you feel! Just try to remember that it will get easier as the kids get older. Are there any morning school programs that you could get Porgie into? That might help alleviate some of the workload for a few hours a day.

Lainey-Paney said...

in our case, it's the other way around. I don't work 60 hours a week or anything, but I work in an ER with people. I can't just walk out on a case. I can't walk out in the middle of doing something. Yes, a night person comes in to relieve me---but I have to get to a point in each case where I can hand it off, and I have to document everything I do. So, often, I work more than an 8 hour shift when I go in.

I get incredibly frustrated w/ my husband when I am not only not getting to leave on time, but I have to hear him b*tch about it. It's the nature of my job. He knew that when he married me! And, I only work 3 days a week (usually) anyway!!!!

So....I am sorry that you have to do so much yourself. But, I've also been on the receiving end, & it's not such a nice place to be either.