Thursday, February 19, 2009

Attached

Baby stuff is important to me. I can't part with it, because that would be admitting that my kids aren't babies anymore. So, I cling to Porgie's old clothes. I lovingly admire the bouncy seat. I refuse to throw away broken toys. It is a sickness.

But despite my obsessiveness with baby stuff, I thought I was ready to sell my baby bassinet. My kids never liked sleeping in it, and it was taking up a ton of space in my bedroom. So, I decided to list the bassinet on Craig's List...
Unfortunately, the bassinet did not sell quickly. Every time I listed it, several people would contact me immediately. I was stood up TWICE by people who wanted to come look at the bassinet. After much aggravation, I decided to take the bassinet off of Craig's List.

However, my husband continued to bitch and moan about the damn bassinet. In his defense, the clutter in this house is overwhelming. So I decided to list the bassinet one more time. Once again, I was contacted immediately by a potential buyer. I set up a date and time for a young couple to come look at the bassinet.

Instead of being stood up AGAIN, the couple actually showed up. They bought my bassinet. I instantly felt pangs of regret as the woman handed me the money. And I almost cried when they carried it out the door. I put my Porgie in that bassinet when she was a wee little babe...Why have I placed so much emphasis on these silly objects? My children didn't even enjoy the bassinet, yet I feel oddly sentimental about it.

And my bedroom feels strange and empty.

21 comments:

Midwest Mommy said...

I am the same way twin! Seriously, it drive my hubs nuts. I have about 12 bins of clothes in the garage and I can't part with any of them. I could go through each outfit and tell someone when they wore it, which picture it is in, who gave it to them. Toys I am not so attached to but clothes, shoes and baby gear I can't part with.

MarvelousMOM said...

It's very cute. I have a feeling I will be much like you with Skylar's stuff for sure.

Marni's Organized Mess said...

Awww... I know the feeling. Gorilla never laid in it. HLD hated it. Or was it me? It's still in my closet and will be for many many years...

Amanda said...

That is such a sweet picture of your sleeping angel.
I totally understand about how you feel about parting with some of your baby stuff ~ i have an attic full of baby stuff! I haven't the heart to go through it yet ~ there is always another day to do that!
Oh, before i forget i have done a pay it forward post!

Keep your chin up and buy the kids something nice with the money you got for the crib.

Love,
Amanda x

Heather @ boy, girl, and a pug said...

I'm the opposite. I love to get rid of stuff! I can't stand clutter in our house. I am constantly sneaking toys into the trash can! Shhhh, don't tell the kids!

Danielle said...

awe! That looks like mine but in a different pattern. I am lucky I am not sentimental. I used to be a pack rat but now I want to sell everything to get some room in our condo and some money too!

Catizhere said...

I'm with Heather. We borrowed the crib, the changing table was a gift, bouncy seats, swings and big strollers have all been returned or handed-down.
Maggie's clothes? I have a few gorgeous pieces that I kept. Her christening gown (Irish lace) is preserved, the outfit she wore home from the hospital & anything handmade has been saved. I'll let her use them for her baby dolls (with the exception of the gown).

Will's coming home outfit, his Christening suit, 1st Christmas outfit are in a bag on the top shelf of his closet.

As far as toys go, once a piece is either lost or broken, the whole shebang gets tossed.

Kate Coveny Hood said...

I have a hard time letting go of the baby clothes. Since I've had two boys, I got to reuse all of Oliver's stuff for George. But Eleanor's little baby outfits will never be worn again... Okay - the ones I am willing to give away will - but the favorites are all in a box.

On the other hand - I love unloading "gear" on every pregnant woman I meet. "You're 12 weeks pregnant? Want a high chair?" I can't stand all of the plastic junk. But every once in a while one toy will make me catch my breath. And a few of the little ones were covertly stashed in the clothing box.

Eva said...

I'm like that about some stuff. It's like how Porgie likes her night night I guess. :)

jen said...

i do the same thing ... but i try to ease the sadness with the idea that you just gave someone else a beautiful piece to make more memories in. you just gave a new baby a place to rest his/her head ... isn't that special?

Jeninacide said...

I am the OPPOSITE. I don't think I care ENOUGH about stuff. I am perfectly happy to throw things out or give them away or sell them.

My husband is cleaning out our basement and all of our closets taking a TON of my clothes to sell at a vintage store and I was totally fine until he went into my purse closet...! Then I figured... meh.

amanda said...

omg look at baby porgie!! how sweet is she honey???

April said...

I know how that feels. You get SO attached. Me, I had a hard time having my second son Max wear my first son Colin's hand me downs because they looked like Colin NOT Max. So in the end I bought new anyways.

Mama Kalila said...

Awww... Understood. There's a very few things we're willing to get rid of (but I'm afraid I'll react the same way lol). Most of it we're keeping though... hand me down!

TEACHBROECK said...

I kept all of my daughters clothes for 9 years...totes and totes... finally I have given some away to friends..now the baby stuff like the swing and bouncy seat I am trying to get rid off but it is so hard because I think we are done,...but you never know

Jiff said...

awwww!! I would be sad too. I sold a bouncy seat that I didn't care for and I was SO sad when the girl just snatched it and left to take it to her car. I sat there and sniffled a little. :(

Z's Mom said...

awww....at least you have the pictures....that's what is important.

Z didn't like the bassinet either.

Tabitha said...

I was the same with alot of my childrens stuff ~ but there comes a point when you just have to sort it out!!
If your children never liked sleeping in it, then you have done the right thing.
Love and big hugs Tabitha XXXX

Nellie said...

I do the EXACT same thing. Mourn it a little... it's normal!

Rachel said...

Ah, Christy. I know I think I am going to feel the same way when we give up our swing. It was Max's and now Sam's and it will make me tear as well. Adorable pic!

iMommy said...

A lot of people do this! Have you ever watched TLC's Clean Sweep? Thee biggest part of that show is helping people work through their attachment to the stuff.

I think their suggestion would be to find a picture that reminds you of the special memories associated with the item, and honor it somehow -- a framed place of honor in the house or a special scrapbook page.