Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Bitch

We are not allowed to talk about sleep issues anymore. Apparently, this topic is much too sensitive for me. Although most of the comments I have received since Sunday's post were encouraging, a few have just annoyed the shit out of me. Haven't you people ever heard of the saying "misery loves company?" Misery does not like to hear phrases like, "CIO creates attachment disorders. Science proves it" or "I could never let my baby cry for 30 minutes." I am not attacking the people who wrote these comment. Actually, I respect them for having the courage to say it.

To be honest with you, I really don't care about your stance on using the cry-it-out method. I wasn't writing the post to debate the pros and cons of the issue. I was writing the post to get my feelings into writing, and to move forward with MY plan.

I have probably pissed all of you off. I am sorry internet friends. Feel free to leave a comment telling me what a bitch I am.

21 comments:

Jeninacide said...

Yeah... CIO and sleeping methods and all kinds of crap is soo effing controversial these days. But guess what- no matter your method I guarantee that if you are loving/attentive parent your child would be A-OK!?

Have I mentioned that I have actually CONSIDERED SOME NIGHTS the old school method of soaking a sugar cube in some brandy and giving it to my child?

Don't think I would actually do it- But I have been TEMPTED NONE THE LESS.

Misguided Mommy said...

FUCK IT! FUCK THEM! YOUR THE MOM YOUR THE BOSS

TELL EM TO FUCK OFF!

also, jen i've heard of brandy but what is this whole sugar cube bit???

Jen said...

People who judge are so sad. Well I shouldn’t say that exactly since I quietly judge MANY but the key is quietly. NO one knows what’s best for another family. It’s for each family to find their own way. I have used CIO w/ both my boys & while it seemed SO much easier w/ the first it has worked well for our family. I have 2 young kids that get a good night sleep (KNOCK on WOOD, oh dear god KNOCK on WOOD) & while it’s WONDERFUL for Mommy & Daddy it’s also WONDERFUL for the child.

So let me judge you if I may – I believe you’re a good mother, you know what’s best for your family & what ever you decide will be the right decision.

Also I want to add that your post about being a SAHM & how you know you won’t regret being one was pretty inspirational. After you said it it seemed so obvious but I had never considered that. Thank you!

Lainey-Paney said...

it doesn't matter what we do as moms, i'm afraid. no matter what happens, if they end up in therapy some day, it will always be our fault for what we did or didn't do.

...hey, no pressure there, right?

Here's my 2 cents (not that you asked...): every baby is different. Different things may work for different babies. Do what works for your kids, and your family, and your lifestyle, etc. If someone else doesn't like it---they can suck it!

Amanda said...

Your a great Mum. Period.

Dooneybug said...

Didn't piss me off 'cause I didn't leave a comment last time (snicker). Hell, I know just how you feel. Sometimes what we write on our blogs gets taken TOO literally (like the assumption that you let Izzy cry all night). I also feel like I need to go back and justify what I've written because people took it the wrong way.

You do what is best for your kids because you know your kids, us strangers don't. Children aren't a one size fits all and what techniques work for some kids are a complete disaster for another kid. I am even coming to understand how different siblings even are and how you have to use different techniques even with the children in the same family.

It's ok Christy. You are doing a great job and you're a good Mom!

amanda said...

hello? it's your blog and you can talk about whatever you want. this is one of the reasons we blog - to vent and share in the misery.

doesn't everyone know the first rule of blogging is to make the mama feel good/better about her choices/situation??

and for the record you are far, far from being a *itch my friend.

Claudia said...

* puts on her Kevlar long johns and moves in for a quick hug * I just drink wine and it all goes away. :) ♥ you.
Om Shanti, Om Shanti.....

Anth said...

CIO causes attachment issues? Oh well. I guess my daughter can send me her future therapy bill. Whatever to all of that. You have to do what keeps you sane...ah, with the exception of the sugar cube in brandy, jeninacide. Lol

A Mom Two Boys said...

Dude. You're such a bitch. But I'm only saying it cause you said I could. I missed the whole hullabaloo, but it sounds fun.

CIO is kinda like breastfeeding. People feel very strongly one way or the other and are not afraid to call you on it when you go the other way.

Whatever works is what I say. What. Ever. Works.

Now I have to go read your post and the comments! yay!

Danielle said...

I hope I didn't upset you. I think you need to do what is best for you. and then bitch about it all you want. haha Don't listen to anyone else anyway. Your kid- your rules!

Eva said...

I love when you speak your mind.

Hey, the brandy-soaked sugar cube sounds really good. I am wishing I had both brandy and a sugar cube for my dessert now. Maybe Kahlua on brown sugar? I'm serious about this.

Mojavi said...

I said sorry, prefaced my comment stating that i was hardcore on CIO... And yes there are numerous studies documenting CIO creates attachment disorders as well as brain damage. I am not making it up, however I am also not reffering to babies who cry for 5 minutes while they settle down a little. I am talking about repeated long term CIO situations. I am sorry you are so sensitive on the subject. I thought you were more open to my opinions obviously not. I am not sure if your refferring to me as the "BITCH" but if you are that is fine I will be that. I am shocked and hurt but also fine with it. As for your misery loves company yes I am miserable right now but I in no way was trying to make you miserable with me. I honestly will try and refrain from my opinions on your blog in the future.

Awake said...

Sorry that you felt this way, I never follow up with any comments, so I was out of the loop.

I hope you don't stop writing about "sleep issues." I've got our own, you've read about them, and it is nice to know someone else is going through something similar. Plus, this is YOUR blog - if you have to censor yourself for the idiot masses, well that just sucks.

By the way, IMO, we all screw up our kids in our own special way - I think that's just one part of parenthood. My 15 month old won't fall asleep unless I lay down with her. Hmm? Issues? Yep. Do I care? Nope. (well, not much).

You're an inspirational mom. Take care hon.

Christy said...

Mojavi,
I wasn't calling you a bitch, I was referring to myself. Notice that the last line said, "Feel free to leave a comment telling me what a bitch I am." I admitted that I am sensitive on this subject, probably because I don't really like letting my babies cry. But, I have tried everything else, and this is the only thing that seems to produce any results with my babies.

Honestly I was a little annoyed by your comment, but I respect you and your opinions. Always feel free to voice your opinions. Otherwise, this blogging thing would be quite boring.

Mama Kalila said...

I'm sorry! I don't think you're being a bitch... and hope you didn't think anything I said was being judgemental. I've let Kalila cry myself, I just don't like too.

Marni Tiani Self said...

Go you. Go you. Go you. I'm running my hands in a circular motion in the front and moving my blubbler in circles creating a dorky dance.

Stand up for what you believe in. Whatever works for your family, is what is right.

(((Hugs!)))

Not So Perfect said...

Yea....gosh....I am so out of the loop, do whatever feels right for you guys.

Some kids sleep, some kids don't. It has nothing to do with you or your mama skills. I don't care what anyone says.

Someone told me something recently like "if your kid grows up and is screwed up it was all your fault if they grow up and they save the world it had nothing to do with you." Basically saying we only give credit to the parent for the wrong or bad things. Not that this has anything to do with the CIO method, I am just rambling.

I really hope Izzy starts sleeping better.

Chas said...

Wow, I've been away for a couple of days, and look what I missed! I hope my comment saying "I just couldn't do it" wasn't offensive to you....b/c truly I should have worded it "I couldn't handle it." (Meaning, I couldn't handle it when she was really little). We did eventually let Lila cry it out some, not for long periods of time, but some crying was done...and that was really the only thing that ever got her to sleep alone for more than an hour. I guess before that she was smart enough to know I was just going to pick her up if she cried.

Don't let stupid comments get you down...it's not worth it...science says so ;).

Amber Cripe said...

BAM! I love your ability to tell it like it is. I have learned with 3 children that every child and every parent will be different. You have to do what is best for YOU and your sanity! Good for you

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