Saturday, October 25, 2008

Annoying asshole

I rarely ever talk about my husband on my blog. I don't intentionally avoid talking about him, there just isn't much to say most days. He works, I stay at home, we argue about silly stuff, and then we go to bed. But I am going to talk about my husband today - not because I want to brag about how great he is, but because he has been annoying the crap out of me.

My husband can be very selfish when it comes to free time. I take the kids to the museum or the aquarium or an indoor activity center on a regular basis. On those days, he'll have an hour or two of free time. I don't mind him having free time, but where is my free time? Sometimes he'll take Porgie grocery shopping with him on Sundays, but Izzy always stays home with me. Seriously, I cannot remember the last time I was in this house ALONE.

Also, my husband likes to buy lots of stupid shit for himself. He is always buying DVDs he never watches, electronics he only uses a few times, and retarded eBay purchases that are a complete waste of money. I try to refrain from saying anything because he works very hard to keep our little family afloat. But I find it difficult to not get annoyed.

And don't even get me started on his stupid fucking conspiracy theories.

Where is all this anger toward him coming from? Well, we had a huge fight the other night about our trip to Kentucky in December. I don't really want to get into all the details, but the fight basically revolved around him getting drunk with his friends in KY and me staying home to watch the kids. I guess I just assumed that we would be visiting family and friend TOGETHER. I didn't know that my husband had this whole other agenda planned. Fucking bastard.

Sorry for unloading my anger and frustration onto you.

34 comments:

Marni's Organized Mess said...

What are blogger friends for?

I feel you. I am starting to resent that there is not a SINGLE thing my husband has contributed to this Halloween Party, I have decorated, prepped, cleaned, cooked, nothing he's helping with!

TEACHBROECK said...

Jdog tried to pull that stuff with me...but I just don't let it happen. Either you are coming with me to take the kids places...you are THE dad...or we each can have some time today..you pick. I am lucky..he can't communicate worth crap, but he is a great..INVOLVED dad..either that or I just like getting drunk too! GOOD LUCK! He is lucky to have you!

Rachel said...

It is so cool. I too rarely trash my hubby but sometimes it is needed and get the support of your bloggy friends. We all have stupid hubby's sometimes and mine is one now too.

Jenn said...

My ex husband did that shit all the time, I lived with three kids 24/7 while he had a life !
So I get what you are feeling, I'm sorry..most men are idiots whether their wives admit it or not!

Dana said...

that is soooo nit right of your husband.. you should have equal free time to enjy to yourselves... but we are tlaking about a man.. they usually are all about - them, them, them....

Amanda said...

All men can be assholes ~ you are not alone in thinking and feeling that!!
Get that trip to Kentucky (and hubby) sorted out, and hopefully you both can have quality time and alone time together on your trip away.
I hope you feel better soon.
l,
Amanda x

iMommy said...

**ouch** sounds like a rough time around your house right now. sending good vibes your way - I hope that you can make him see where you are coming from!

Mama Smurf said...

EEK!

You need some girl friend time. TELL him (don't ASK him) that you will be going out with your friends on such n such day. And go!

Eva said...

Sucks. Totally know what you mean. Husbands.

I guess judging from his reaction today you'll find out if he still reads the blog! I say tell him all this stuff and tell him to figure out a solution.

Z's Mom said...

Hey, Christy,that's what your blog is for....and what your bloggy friends are here for? Did you feel any better once you got it typed out? No? I wouldn't have either. That is pretty selfish! I'm a single mom...and you're sounding like me.... I think I would go crazy if my mom and dad didn't take Zander overnight every once in awhile. I would never get my projects done....and sometimes..its nice to just sit at home.....by myself....just me...well, me and my dog and 2 cats....but they aren't as needy as Z!

Anywho....hope you get the plans for KY all ironed out!!!

Tabitha said...

It is good to get your feelings out!
All men can be total prats at times!!
love and hugs XXXXXX

Amber said...

I think every women feels your pain! I don't ever talk about my husband on my blog which makes him very angry but then when I try to get him out to do things with the kids he doesn't want to do much and it gets so annoying!

Amber said...

Have you ever checked out this website http://truewifeconfessions.blogspot.com/ I like to read it and think that maybe my marriage isn't the only one that has problems!

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Mama Kalila said...

I'm sorry... I feel ya. I've literally had murderous thoughts about his wow game. I get they need time to unwind... but when do we get any? And better yet... if you say you're going to do something around the house, do it... don't sit there playing a stupid video game. (sorry... I'm a bit perturbed too)

Danielle said...

awe! I put the smack down on pete all the time. But now that golf is over he will be home...annoying me and picking on me and telling me how to take care of E! I hope you get some alone time. I think you need a day of YOU time.

Melissa said...

We've all been there. I'm not there now, but I'm sure I will be again.

Inhale,exhale, and try to get some alone time. {hug}

Misguided Mommy said...

WE HAVE THIS SAME FIGHT ONLY INSERT THE WORDS CALIFORNIA IN PLACE OF KENTUCKY.

AND DUDE ROB ALWAYS LEAVES ME AND TAKES THE 3 YEAR OLD. LIKE THAT COMPARES FUCKER

chris said...

Sorry to hear about the troubles... but I'm glad you vented. Money is a constant topic at our house too. My hubbie is finally starting to come around, but it's definitely tough!

The White Family said...

AMEN!! As I type this my husband is out of town for the third time for the entire weekend in two months.. To make it worse he is at the beach with nothing but guys from work doing god knows what. I'm at home.. house is a wreck.. two kids two and under and I haven't even bathed today. Bastard!! I feel your pain sista!!

Melain said...

Sounds pretty typical. Men do not think to give you what you need. That's why you just have to TAKE it. Start planning things for yourself and let him know when he needs to be home to take the kids so you can be where you need to be. It works for me.

I'd be pissed about that vacation too.

kristi said...

I was highly pissed at my hubs today too. They are so selfish at times!

amanda said...

sorry buddy.

boys. hubbies. men. truly can suck can't they?

:(

i think he owes you a swingset!

jen said...

i understand.
glad you were able to let it out.
my husband definitely reads and it frustrates me to no end that i can't bitch about him at my place.

i've come to the understanding that sometimes, it's easier to go places with the kids by myself...than to go with the husband. because then...i have no expectations that someone might help me.

Melissa_C said...

Sometimes I dont think the men really realize that being a SAHM IS a job and we shouldnt have to always be with the kids ALL the time. We as moms should have our free time as well. Just because they "work" outside of the home, doesnt mean we dont work! I think us SAHMs well, all moms in general really do get taken advantage of. They expect that we will be there always for the kids (we will be but you know what I mean) like..if you just said, hey I am going out with my friends have a fun time with the kids...I think he would be like what??? oooh no...so I dont understand why they thinks its ok for them to do it! Sometimes I just wonder what goes through their minds! Sorry it turned into a rant...from what I read, you are a great mom and you deserve some you time too!

Carrie said...

Big Hugs! You've gotten some good advise, so, call him out on his actions.

Steph said...

My husband can be like that at times too. They just don't seem to realize!!! Thinking of you...

Jiff said...

Wow. I'd be pissed too.

When I was on maternity leave and during the newborn phase... Bay came 7 weeks early so I had 7 "extra" weeks of newborn... and I only took 8 weeks with her. I wanted him to take her somewhere, anywhere (to the bookstore, grocery store, etc) so I could get 4-5 hours of uninterrupted sleep. I wanted him to help me when he got home just by changing her diaper or answering her cries. He said, "Well, you've been home all day." WTF. THAT"S MY EFFIN POINT, ASSHOLE! I needed a break too. He just didn't get it.

Jeninacide said...

My husband is pretty good about taking the baby when I have had ENOUGH- but he almost NEVER takes him on errands with him- whereas I take him out with me (almost) EVERY SINGLE TIME. My husband tries to use the excuse that he is going to ride his bike instead of driving- but I think he does it on purpose so he doesn't have to deal with the whole BABY THING.

ROWR!

Becca said...

My husband pulls that shit with me all the time. I understand he has a son that he needs to spend time with, but he tends to realize he has a wife and daughter at home. What pisses me off the most is after I'm home all day with her, he calls and says "so and so needs to meet for a drink." That inevitably turns into several hours at happy hour, and then he comes home and complains that Ava is in bed and he never gets to see her. Hmmmmm...don't feel sorry for ya bud!

And to be nosy (you don't have to answer if you don't want) where is your family from in KY (I have to ask since I live here too.)

Lainey-Paney said...

you can vent to us.
and to get your own free-time, you just get up, get dressed, (on a day that he's off work of course), get your purse & announce to hubby that you are going to ____________. You'll be home in a few hours. "Oh, and while I'm gone, can you make sure...."

:)

Lainey-Paney said...

you can vent to us.
and to get your own free-time, you just get up, get dressed, (on a day that he's off work of course), get your purse & announce to hubby that you are going to ____________. You'll be home in a few hours. "Oh, and while I'm gone, can you make sure...."

:)

Lainey-Paney said...

you can vent to us.
and to get your own free-time, you just get up, get dressed, (on a day that he's off work of course), get your purse & announce to hubby that you are going to ____________. You'll be home in a few hours. "Oh, and while I'm gone, can you make sure...."

:)

Rose said...

I feel you. My husband has been an annoying asshole as well (and so has his family) but I can't vent about it on the blog because he reads it (why in the world did I ever tell him about it?) and even better, he gave his mom the url, so she reads it. So much for having a place to vent!

My husband does the same things...buys whatever he wants, gets free time, etc. And we moms do everything else.